Confused about 'boyfriend'!?

have met a guy i really like. i had a really harsh break up with my ex and it took me a long long time to even look at a guy again. then i met this guy. been 'with' him for a few months, have met and get on really well with his family and friends, we sleep together, he's lovin and affectionate when we're alone, he speaks about things we do together, and the people we work with/ know are under no illusions that he and i are together. however, he wont acknowledge me as anythin more than a friend. i asked him what was goin on and he just says that we need to take things as they come. he was seriosuly hurt before by his ex so has same reservations as me. am not too keen to jump into a relationship for fear of a re-occurance of my last relationship but am willin to at least try. we are both only sleeping with each other and i trust that he hasn't been with anyone else as he cant abide cheaters. he goes on holiday soon and tbh, i dunno if i can care enough to just be a mate to him while he's off livin it up if he aint prepared to show at least some sort or commitment. do i walk before i really let my barriers down or do i stay and know that potentially i will only ever be his friend with benefits?